I think I made my husband feel bad.
He, in my opinion, is a video game ADDICT. He plays it everyday for hours a day. More than half of his waking hours are spent playing video games (typically online - like World of Warcraft).
It seems like I am always trying to convince him to spend time with me and the baby (or just me - like date night), to no avail. No matter what I try, no matter what I say, no matter what I do. And yes, I have even tried the nonchalant way (acting like I don't care, it doesn't bother me, not complaining, not saying anything). Nothing works.
So today I went to his room and he's on the game and he was online playing with one of his (female) friends on there. I guess she was upset about something...he was explaining that for the past 10 nights or so they were leveling...yada yada yada. I just looked at him. I said, "Well, really if yall have been doing that the last few nights, maybe you just need a night off and spend it with your family" He looked at me like he was thinking 'here we go again'. I went on about how he owes me three date nights (from the past 3 weeks), etc and he turns it around "Why are you always bossing me around...." I explained that I was not bossing him, I just miss him and that when I got married, I expected us to spend time and do things together because that is how I was raised...that families spend time together, NOT that the husband is in one room playing games all day while the world goes on around him. Then I said, "Maybe our daughter will expect that because that's what she see's you do all the time...and maybe she'll look for a husband who spends all day playing video games, but not me." I could tell by the look on his face it hurt his feelings. And I added, "It's just that I miss you and I love you and want to spend time with you." He remained silent.
And now...he remains in his room...playing the game.